Why You’re Never Alone on Valentine’s Day

This weekend I’ll be celebrating my first single Valentine’s Day since I was 16.

Crazy, right?

Even at 16 Valentine’s Day was still one of those things that didn’t matter very much. You got served heart-shaped cookies in the school cafeteria and everyone was buzzing about who they were going to ask to the Turnabout dance. Valentine’s Day wasn’t really a thing.

So for all my “adult” life, Valentine’s Day has always been a “couples” thing. Which was great because I have, for as long as I can remember, been one half of a couple.

This year, as the day approaches, it’s more of a fact than anything — I haven’t had any outward emotional reaction to it. I mean, I’ve had a few emotional moments this week that have come out of nowhere, and I have to assume the upcoming holiday is the cause. Not because I’m sad necessarily, but because it’s weird, I guess. Weird isn’t the right word but then again, there isn’t really a word for it. So we’ll go with weird.

But regardless of the fact that this year I won’t get a bouquet of flowers or a custom cake from my favorite bakery, I can’t be sad because I’m not alone. I don’t feel alone because I’m surrounded by love. Love doesn’t exclusively come from a romantic partner. I’ve always known that but I was never forced to see the love outside of a relationship because I had that comfort of one for so long. So now I see the love from others a lot more clearly now. I’m not alone.

I’m not alone because I have a family. I’m not alone because I work daily with people who love me. They don’t just coexist with me, they love me. I’m not alone because I have a group of friends who know me, the good and the bad, and they still love me. I’m developing loving relationships with new people every day: new coworkers, new roommates, blog friends. And lastly, I’m not alone because I’ve gotten to know myself a lot lately and, what do you know, I really like “me.”

Let’s go back to that “blog friends” thing. I feel so much love from YOU. This outlet has helped me meet so many people in the last few months and brought me out of my bubble more than I ever thought I could. Everyone who has ever commented, even the people I haven’t met and may never meet in real life, have been nothing but kind. You guys show me love every time you read the words I put down and care when I open up to you. People who have never even met me but still feel some connection to me. I feel love from you.

So even though this Valentine’s Day I’m no longer the other half in a happy couple, I’m not alone.

And regardless of your situation, you’re never alone either.

Now who wants to send me some chocolate-covered strawberries?Valentines-Day-Cape-Cod

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62 comments

  1. Hi 5 to being singletons this Valentine’s Day. Glad you’re in this frame of mind though- I can’t imagine what it would be like to have been in a relationship or with someone every year since 16 but sounds like your not phased- And that’s a good thing!

  2. I feel tons of love from my new blogger friends! A lot of the time I wish y’all were my “real life” friends. BTW, Valentine’s Day is the dumbest holiday ever, so it’s all good! =)

    1. Haha I sometimes wish my “real life” friends were more like my blogger friends too — it’s funny because my “real life” friends don’t care about food OR fitness — it’s crazy! Where did I find these people? Kidding 🙂

  3. Love this! You are right you are not alone! No one is, we are all surrounded by people who we love and love us. Valentines day is not only for couples is for families and friends too! Happy Valentines day 🙂

  4. This was so beautiful and spot on, Lauren! I feel what you are going through because this is my first Valentine’s Day as a single girl in five years. It just seems so weird to me to think about. I wish we lived closer because we would just have the most epic girl’s night tomorrow night! I hope you are able to surround yourself with friends and family you love tomorrow and eat lots of chocolate and pizza : )

    1. Haha I know we’re both on the same page — weird isn’t the right word for it but that’s what we have to go with. You and I would totally have the best Vday ever! Pizza is definitely happening tomorrow 🙂 Happy Valentine’s Day, love!

  5. Aww this is such an awesome and sweet post! I’ve pretty much always been single for Vday haha, and I honestly never really thought much of it, just a Hallmark holiday ya know! But I never realized it is a great time to really be thankful for all the people in your life!
    I can completely relate to blogging taking you out of your comfort zone too! When I first started my blog for a school project, I was honestly embarrassed to present it for my project, now I am going around telling strangers to check it out! It really makes you share whats going on in your head and the positive reactions from all the wonderful bloggers and readers is just incredible!

  6. Aw. Love you!

    As I got older I never really focused much on Valentine’s Day. It’s just not one of those holidays that I care much about. It’s not like I will be doing anything differently either; everyday is a day filled w chocolate for me. I hope you have a great weekend and remember you are awesome!

  7. I’m glad you can see Valentine’s Day in this light. I feel like Valentine’s Day is really just a label and it tends to drive people (singles and couples alike) crazy because of what it’s SUPPOSED to mean. Honestly, I think every day is what you make of it and you can choose to celebrate any day any way you want.

    1. Haha you’re right I think, depending on the individual person, you can either love it or hate it, regardless of whether or not you’re in a relationship. Love is in the air and that’s always a good thing, no matter you relationship status!

  8. Girl, I say you go buy YOURSELF a bouquet of flowers and a custom cake from your favorite bakery! Ain’t no one need a man to do that for them. (Even if it is cheaper to have a man do it for you, since that ish can be expensive…but, girl, you are an employed and hardworking lady! You’ve got your own money you can spend on nice things for yourself!) Seriously, though. As a very wise blogger I follow said today (and many times before today), your first and last love is self-love, and I think you have every right to treat yourself to something nice. That being said, you’re totally spot on with this: there are SO many kind of love in the world and our lives outside of ~romantic~ love, and I think Valentine’s Day is a great day to celebrate all of them 🙂

    1. I will most definitely be getting myself a treat: I’ve narrowed it down to a) donut b) Portillo’s cake shake c) actual piece of cake… We’ll see!

      I love that notion about self-love. It’s true: we come into this world alone and we leave alone…we best like the person we become throughout life 🙂 Have a wonderful weekend!

  9. Awww great read! I am part of a couple this year but I spent many, MANY years being single on valentine’s day. I think being single has a ton of benefits like that fact that you can focus more on yourself and your passions. I admire your positivity, no go out and have some fun with your gal pals! 😉

  10. Hundo P agree with the sentiment that love comes in so many forms, from so many people in our lives, and we’re so blessed to feel (and give!) love. that whole “throw kindness around like confetti” thing? throw LOVE around like confetti. it’s amazing how far a little love can go. this is the first year in yearsss that i actually AM a part of a couple, and i have to say that i never, ever minded being single on Vday. you have so much inner strength and glow, and i hope you feel alllll the love from everyone in your lovely life this wknd. xo.

  11. What a beautiful mindframe!! I was single for my first time last year on valentines day and I had the best time of my life. Love from friends and loving myself was better than I expected! Sending you blogger love today and always xoxo

  12. I love this post. You have such a great attitude! You’re 100% right too – there are so many people who love you.

      1. Thank you so much, Lauren. The prayers and good thoughts/vibes are appreciated. He’s doing alright, but it will still be rough until he at least gets his surgery done with here in a couple of weeks. From there…we will hope and pray for the best.

  13. Being single on Valentine’s Day is fun! I am taking myself out to brunch and then having a wine pairing dinner with my best friend and two guy friends. Happy Vday! 🙂 You certainly are loved!

  14. This is such an awesome post! Valentines Day is about sharing love with your family and friends. And if you happen to have a special someone, then great. If not, there is no shame, nor should you feel less special or less loved! Great outlook! Enjoy being single and SMILE!

  15. I would send you some chocolate covered strawberries in a second! (Yum and good choice!) We don’t really celebrate Valentines Day anyway…I prefer to let the people in my life that I love know every day of the year rather than just on one day. YOU are loved by many, friend! I hope your weekend has been as great as you are. ❤

  16. you are spot on and I love your attitude! We really don’t celebrate, other than a card and some m&ms, because really, pink and white m&m’s taste SO much better! Hope you had a great weekend 🙂

  17. I couldn’t agree with you more, Valentine’s Day is all about the people that love you and that you love – romantic or not – and it’s also about self-love! I’ve had a bunch of Valentine’s Days when my hubby is gone, and I use the holiday as an excuse to pamper and treat myself.

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